Category: Tiny Buddha’s 365 Tiny Love Challenges
Are Our Flaws Really Negative?
Identify one to three of your biggest flaws and write below all the ways these have served you well to help you foster greater self-acceptance, in spite of your imperfection.
For example, your impatience may help you be persistent, enabling you to do well in your career; and your sensitivity may contribute to your power as a performer.
Did this help you feel any differently about your flaws? How might it affect your actions if you remembered these things going forward?
Love Your Body
As an act of kindness to your body, write below one thing you appreciate about each part you usually criticize. (If you feel inclined, you can take it one step further and say these things to your body while looking in a mirror.)
You might not love your legs, but they get you from point A to B; you might wish you had thinner arms, but they allow you to hug the people you love and hold your baby.
Do you feel better able to treat your body with kindness after doing this?
Change
Be honest with yourself about what you most want to change in your life and why you haven’t done this yet. Then identify one thing you can do to work toward this today, and do it.
How have you been protecting yourself by lying to yourself? How has lying to yourself in this way actually hurt you?
What would your ninety-year-old self tell your current self about making a change, starting now?
What did you learn about yourself, and what did you do to begin creating change?
Honesty
Be honest with yourself about how you feel right now and embrace the feeling, without trying to make it go away. After a short while, reflect on what this feeling is trying to teach you, and if possible, act on what you’ve learned.
Try to peel back the layers of your emotions. There may be loneliness underneath anger, or there may be a feeling of inadequacy underneath jealousy.
Do you find it difficult to identify what you’re really feeling? If so, why do you think that is?
Do you allow yourself to fully feel your emotions, or do you usually try to make them go away as quickly as possible? If you chose the latter, why do you think you do this, and how does this negatively affect you?
Mental Clutter
Spend a little time clearing your mental clutter by writing down everything that’s on your mind so that you can release your worries and be more present in conversations today.
Do you feel that your worries have less of a grip on you now that you’ve taken some time to purge them in this way?
I’m not a bad daughter
Identify something negative you believe about yourself because of a past mistake for which you’ve struggled to forgive yourself (for example, “I’m a bad person”) – something that is not a fact, even if it may feel like one. Look for one piece of proof to support the opposite belief today. (For example, helping your sister could be proof that you are, in fact, a good person.)
“I feel angry that I never had a proper mother. I feel angry that I don’t know what it feels like to be nurtured or taken care of.” – Adult daughter who has not spoken to her mother for seven years
Adult children do not divorce their parents lightly. “The feelings of love and loyalty are so strong,” says a daughter no longer in contact with her parents. “It took me many years to stop feeling ashamed of the hurt I had caused them, but my desire to protect my new family was stronger.”
Forgiveness doesn’t mean sacrificing myself to please someone or an entire culture of someones.
Overall I am a happier person since I have disowned them. I feel relief mostly, like I’ve gotten out of jail for a crime I didn’t commit.
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Anger is a black hole
Think about how you parents (or the people who raised you) processed and responded to anger. Write down anything unhealthy you learned from them and what might be a healthier choice. (The goal is not to blame them for their shortcomings, but to recognize how you formed some of your patterns and what can do to change them.)
The Eridanus Black Hole, courtesy of ListVerse |
The Pillars of Creation, courtesy of ListVerse |
The power of vulnerability
Watch Brene Brown’s TED talk “The Power of Vulnerability” and then share the link with someone in your life who you believe could benefit from watching it.
Hiding
Identify one experience from your childhood that taught you to hide your true self – some event that led you to believe that hiding was safest. As you go about your day, recognize when you’re acting on this belief, and remind yourself, I am not that child anymore, and this belief no longer serves me, since it holds me back in life.
Courtesy of Queer Babble |