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The shirt was from Wear Your Label, obviously |
Kristin Coppens, Lene Anderson, and me with my blonde hair |
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Courtesy of Fresh Stitches |
Courtesy of Health Storylines |
The shirt was from Wear Your Label, obviously |
Kristin Coppens, Lene Anderson, and me with my blonde hair |
Courtesy of Kristin |
Courtesy of Health Storylines |
Courtesy of Fresh Stitches |
Thanks Wikipedia! |
Via Tumblr |
Self-Portrait with Bandaged Ear |
Via Wisdom to Inspire |
I feel like a hypocrite…
Lately, I’ve been sleeping on the couch instead of in my bed next to my husband.
There was no torrid affair with a movie star or falling out. Instead, this is all thanks to the plethora of illnesses that I’ve collected over the years. The biggest culprit as of late has changed from my mostly-controlled Systemic Juvenile Idiopathic Arthritis (SJIA) to my Fibromyalgia. With that comes allodynia, or that thing of when sensations that shouldn’t hurt you do hurt – like clothing touching your skin. Our couch is super soft and feels like a fleece blanket so, when my Fibro flares up, that’s where I live.
That doesn’t mean I slow down by any means. I do a million things from that couch: work on my masters, plan advocacy events, raise awareness of illnesses or money for new treatments, mentor others, write, run two websites, host a weekly chat, Skype or game with my sister, be a badass friend, play with my guinea pigs, pass out and snore, and more! I do sleep – promise.
I’m not superwoman. I know this. I have dealt with such bad fatigue that, when I have the energy to accomplish these things, I have to act. Call it making up for lost time, being stubborn, hogging opportunities – I call it helping others. That’s what I love to do.
Participating in such a wide variety of things contributes to stress and, in turn, pain at times. It takes away from things I might be able to do with family or for self-care. The topics I write about – relationships, self-love, sexuality, dealing with comorbid conditions, managing healthcare, recovering from childhood abuse, and more – resonate with others. They are topics that aren’t covered well by other patients, physicians, healthcare professionals, organizations, and more.
I do all of this because I know that I could have used someone like me as I grew up, as I learned more about my illnesses, to show that you can still be sassy, realistic, have a crummy backstory, and STILL live an awesome life despite rocking a replica House, MD cane sometimes.
What’s Self-Love 101? A week-long email course specifically for us chronically ill and awesome peeps!
The aim of this course can be summed up by my friend Jaq here:
Jaq would like you to know glasses are not delicious |
I want to help you challenge yourself – to challenge the notions that we have to be productive 110% of the time and that it’s not okay to take breaks.
Gus suggests resting with a Tardis blanket |
I want to help you examine the relationships you have, both with others and yourself, to help you be the best – and healthiest – you.
Jaq and Oreo have the best friendship EVER |
I want to help you feel happier about yourself and to stop that negative talk that’s so common, whether you’re ill or healthy. I find that my own negative self-talk gets much worse the sicker I am, though, because I start feeling like a bad friend for canceling plans and the like.
UPDATE: The e-book is ready and waiting for the course to begin. If you sign up by 2/27, I’ll send you an extra something something!
I hope that you will join me on this journey! Sign up here!
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Whenever you get hard on yourself today, comfort yourself with a physical gesture and a few words of compassion, such as, “I’m having a tough time, but I deserve my own love and kindness.” According to self-compassion researcher Kristin Neff, physical touch releases the feel-good hormone oxytocin – even when the touch is your own.
What do you usually do when you start getting hard on yourself? How does this keep you stuck?
What, if anything, do you fear might happen if you’re not hard on yourself? Is is possible that’s not true?
What type of physical gesture do you find most soothing?
Self-care is not easy. We’ve talked about this before. A lot of people aren’t sure where to start or how to go about practicing self-care or self-love.
It’s not easy to figure out what to do if you don’t know where to start!
In light of that, here are some of the things that I enjoy doing for self-care. Hopefully, this list can spark ideas in you, too! I’ve added some suggestions under the general ideas.
More physical:
Whether you’re a caregiver or caregivee – or neither! – self-care is integral to living a quality life. I’d like to give you some very basic resources on self-care here.